Alone but not lonely

I was having dinner by myself on Subway last night when I spotted this one girl also eating alone by herself. She was there before I started my meal, and when I left, she’s still there playing with her iphone. Well I was kinda curious how come she stand sitting there alone by herself for more than one hour (cause I”ve been there for like an hour too). As for me, I don’t really enjoy sitting in a public area alone for more than an hour without any purpose.

It’s an inevitable fact that sometimes, we need to be alone by ourselves. Alone is a fact that you have to do things by yourselves. But please don’t confuse the word “alone” with “lonely”. Lonely is a feeling that you are alone in this world with nobody could care and understand about you. I give you an example, you are on dinner with few of your colleagues, you are physically there but you cannot enjoy your surrounding, you’re mind are wandering into so many different places.

Alone is what I mostly do in here in Singapore such as eating out alone. Though it’s very common to see in here that people are eating alone on the kopitiam or restaurant, but still, I think most of us could use some company. But in the end, if there’s no one to accompany us, what do we do? Not eating because of the fear of the look on people when they saw you eating alone? Hahaha. Come on, if I’ve had done that, I would be a model by now. I’ll be skinny from the unnecessary fear of eating out alone.

I also want to point out that it is also very common for us who used to be alone most of the time to feel lonely. My key to avoid this “lonely” feeling is to bring books, play with your phones or whatsoever. Just don’t let your mind telling you that you are lonely. Also always try to talk to somebody about how you’re doing these days to somebody, through phones, letters, email and whatsoever. It does make a difference. You might be alone, but trust me, there’s always someone out there who would care for you and think about you at this very moment J